When you got married you didn’t expect to have a troubled marriage. Like virtually everybody else, you ignored the statistics and even discounted your friends and family members who had gone through divorce. You got married with expectations of a lifetime of harmony. The idea of asking divorce questions only comes about when everything on the horizon looks bleak. At some point in a troubled marriage a person has to ask themselves if what they are going through is worth it.
When you no longer see a way out of the suffering it is perfectly natural to weigh your options and start looking at the repercussions of getting a divorce. Most people at that point are in survival mode which means the first questions are probably not even the correct ones.
Divorce is the equivalent of abandoning ship; it is not a decision that people take lightly. They only do it when there is no hope, in fear for their very lives. It is a great misfortune that people are led to believe there is no hope when the truth is the likelihood of your marriage being incredible is far greater than the likelihood of your marriage coming to an end, but if only you knew how!
The Divorce Rate in our Country Defines Ignorance – not Stupidity or Psychological Dysfunction
You have been misled to believe marriage is difficult and requires compatibility, daily effort and sacrifice.
Our society spends so much effort on educating its children about mathematics, literature and so on, but absolutely no effort on the most important aspects of living. There are no courses in public schools that teach intra-gender relationship skills or communication skills. There are no courses that instruct children about what to expect or look for in marriage relationships. The art of marriage is virtually unknown in our culture. Young men and women typically define a suitable mate based on chemistry and looks and similar tastes in movies. For this reason even the most suitable married couples have a very difficult time being married because they simply do not know what is required of them.
Marriage is like Any Other “Thing”- You Need to Know How it Works and What to Do
If your marriage is troubled and you are feeling desperate, don’t give up. Virtually every couple I worked with had reached the “I give up” stage, but 99% of them recovered from that within 20 minutes and went on to have amazingly good marriages after being educated.
The time to actually give up is never. But making the effort alone is not enough anymore than running as fast as you can towards the East Coast will ever bring you to the West Coast; you need to know how a marriage works and what you have to do. Once you learn the essentials your marriage will be amazing.
Could you imagine getting into an airplane and trying to fly it without any aeronautical education? Of course not. Get a hold of my Lessons For A Happy Marriage and end your suffering and frustration. I promise you that you will be amazed how simple and common sense the so called rules for marriage are. It makes no difference what you might think may be causing your marital problems and please don’t ask one of those marriage counselors (marriage counselors suffer the same rate of divorce as everyone else).
Just don’t give up; read the lessons and enjoy God’s greatest gift to you: your soul mate and your family.
